At home, in adult day care, in assisted living…how do you know if it’s a good fit?

How can you tell if where your loved one with dementia is currently living is…well, working? How do you know if it’s the right fit? It’s pretty difficult to ask someone living with dementia what their opinion is on the subject. Even if you were to move them, would that make them happier? Would it […]

Assisted Living is not your enemy

“We want to keep her out of assisted living as long as possible.” “My brother thinks it’s horrible that we want to move dad.” “I’m exhausted caring for my loved one at home, but moving them just seems cruel.” “She took care of me when I was younger, so now it’s my turn.” “I don’t […]

“I don’t really remember it, but I know it’s there.”

We were playing a “fill in the blank” game. I had gathered six of the residents in the front hallway of the Skilled Nursing Facility, in the hopes that more would join as they walked by. My little trick worked, and soon I had 10 people gathered around, engaging in the game. This fill-in-the-blank book is […]

What is dementia-positive design?

BEFORE: First two photos in the set AFTER: Third photo in the set Dementia-positive design is not a concept that gets talked about frequently enough. It’s the idea that because people with dementia live in a different world than we do, we need to be able to adjust their environment accordingly. I think that the […]

“You look like a wicked broad!”

Joan was the second British woman who had lived in one of my dementia care communities. She had moved to the US after meeting her husband, an American soldier, in World War II—a story similar to the one that I heard from my first British resident. If you asked Joan, she could still tell you […]

Why residents constantly lose their shoes in long-term care

I’ve met some of the best people while working in long-term care. While there are plenty of residents’ families that I wish I hadn’t had to deal with, there are many more that are absolutely wonderful. I was talking to one woman the other day whose mother is in our care. “Some people get upset about […]

How to Make the Move to a Dementia Care Community SUCCESSFUL

IN CASE YOU MISSED IT (a post from earlier) I get asked about moving loved ones to dementia care communities all the time. Families usually feel guilty, panicked, and concerned that their loved one with dementia will be very angry with them. Here are some of my favorite tips to make it go smoother! Pre-order […]

People with dementia always win arguments

You can’t argue with someone who has dementia. Well, you can, but you are going to lose. Merle’s daughter comes to visit her frequently, but argues with Merle as if repeating herself is going to make her mother understand. “No, mommy!” Rebecca cried out. “I told you, we aren’t going to see daddy, we are going […]

“Dad, do you remember my name?”

Oh, please don’t ask him that, I thought to myself. The old man stood in the doorway, smiling, confused; an uncertain grin, looking at his two sons and daughter-in-law. “Dad, don’t you remember me?” the one son repeated again. “He doesn’t know what year it is,” I whispered under my breath, unsure of who I […]

“We’re home.”

A story shared with me by one of my residents’ daughters. Her mother is one of my favorite residents. She does a lot of walking, a lot of interacting with others, and, since moving in, has really seemed to adjust well to our community. She can still speak, but often uses a few short, key phrases […]

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