(1/?) How do I get my mom to stop being emotionally invested in my abusive, demented grandmother? Please don’t misunderstand—I know fully well that dementia is a disease, and that my grandmother isn’t trying to be abusive. But it’s completely ruining the lives of everyone in our household. I’m afraid that it will kill my mom. My mom has plenty of problems of her own—a high-stress job, being the main provider of the family, recovering from alcoholism, a history of mental illness, and a myriad of

Hi, I saw the rest of your question, but will just publish this first part for other readers. Yes. She needs emotional help. I recommend therapy, a support group, reading my book, the journal I just made, literally anything for her education. This isn’t really about dementia, it’s about your mom’s mental health.

Why is “no” the default answer?

Are you enjoying my blog posts? Grab a free download of one chapter from my audiobook here and also receive any future helpful tips and posts right to your inbox! When you work in dementia care, you become accustomed to hearing the word, “no.” “No, I don’t want a shower.” “No, thanks, I don’t wantContinue reading “Why is “no” the default answer?”

Caring for yourself + why I don’t love these billboards

Are you enjoying my blog posts? Grab a free download of one chapter from my audiobook here and also receive any future helpful tips and posts right to your inbox! I meet a lot of care partners who look after individuals living with dementia. The recurring theme amongst these care partners—many with varying backgrounds andContinue reading “Caring for yourself + why I don’t love these billboards”

5 steps to get you into the world of someone living with dementia

Are you enjoying my blog posts? Grab a free download of one chapter from my audiobook here and also receive any future helpful tips and posts right to your inbox! I had someone tell me recently that they’d used my Embracing Their Reality techniques when talking to their mother with dementia. “I told her thatContinue reading “5 steps to get you into the world of someone living with dementia”

The folks at my sister’s personal care facility (including the resident MD) are recommending that she have a gyny exam to determine if issues she is experiencing are due to cancer. I’m concerned how my sister would react to such a doctor visit, but I am also concerned about the possible threat of cancer. I’m told that even if cancer is officially diagnosed it is possible that dementia patients may not be candidates for surgery. Any thoughts?

Well, if her symptoms are causing her issues, I’d definitely want to know if we could at least alleviate the symptoms. It’s true, she may not be a candidate for surgery, but she may be able to have some of her symptoms dealt with? Ask the docs if her symptoms could be alleviated…if not, I’dContinue reading “The folks at my sister’s personal care facility (including the resident MD) are recommending that she have a gyny exam to determine if issues she is experiencing are due to cancer. I’m concerned how my sister would react to such a doctor visit, but I am also concerned about the possible threat of cancer. I’m told that even if cancer is officially diagnosed it is possible that dementia patients may not be candidates for surgery. Any thoughts?”

“Therapeutic lying” is a ridiculous phrase

Are you enjoying my blog posts? Grab a free download of one chapter from my audiobook here and also receive any future helpful tips and posts right to your inbox! I work very, very hard to dispel myths about dementia. I work particularly hard to dispel myths regarding communication with individuals living with dementia. OneContinue reading ““Therapeutic lying” is a ridiculous phrase”

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