All right. What do we do when a person living with dementia seems to not recognize this anymore. What’s that about? I have a lot of content on this topic that I called timeline confusion. It’s on my podcast. I have another video about it from a while back on YouTube. I have a lot of info on my blog about this, but let’s talk about it just a little bit here. So this concept I call Timeline Confusion™ is the idea that when a person is living with dementia, time is not really linear for them. And you know this if you’ve ever talked to somebody who has dementia and they’re talking about something that happened years ago as if it happened yesterday and then sometimes other realities exist simultaneously, even though they’re in different timelines. This is also why perhaps a person living with dementia may have trouble placing you on their timeline.
It is not that they don’t recognize you. It’s not that they don’t know you. It’s not that they don’t love you. It’s not that they don’t care it’s that they can’t figure out who you are on their timeline. Let me give you an example. Let’s say our dad, you know, let’s say he’s 90. Okay. You walk in and you’re 60. However, in his reality, and I talk all about Embracing Their Reality™ on other videos and podcasts. And on my blog, you walk in, he’s like, wait a second. He goes on his timeline. He thinks he’s 60. So when you walk in his adult child, he’s like, hang on a second. Who’s this? Because my kid is 30. Who’s this 60-year-old person?
Well, then they’re going to create a reality. That makes sense. Or let me rephrase that their brain is going to create a reality for them. That makes sense to them. So he may think that you, if you’re his son, he may think that you are his dad. That you’re his brother, his cousin, his neighbor, his friend. It’s not that he doesn’t know you or love you. He just can’t figure out why you’re so old. He’s picturing you as a young man. He’s like, who’s this guy. He may even be picturing you as a teenager, a child, you look familiar, you sound familiar. He knows he cares, but who are you on that timeline? That’s what it’s all about. Now, what we don’t want to do is walk into the room and go, Hey, dad, it’s me remember? Or worse…Hey, do you know who I am? Come on, tell me my name, please. Don’t do that. Listen and wait for context clues to tell you who you are. And then go with that reality.
I go into way more detail on my podcast. So you can tune into season four of the dementia by day podcast. Now, anywhere you get your podcast. The phrase, Timeline Confusion™ is actually trademarked. trademarking is a ton of fun. Anyway, thanks for tuning in! I hope you got something useful today and be sure to subscribe and rate, and comment below if you’ve experienced this and I’ll do my best to get back to you. Thanks.
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