“How do I convince him that he has dementia?”


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4 thoughts on ““How do I convince him that he has dementia?””

  1. So, so true!
    My loved one, LWD, does not accept the dementia diagnosis. There. Is. No. Point. belaboring a reality that does not exist for him. There are MANY realities he can no longer experience.
    It’s just a bit shocking when I’m confronted with yet another altered version of my beloved……and I must adjust MY reality.
    Thank God for my therapist, and Rachel Wonderlin. They carry me, keep me grounded, and educate me..

  2. This is so true. Once you helped me figure out I did not need to convince my mom of her memory issues as I might with other medical issues, it was so much easier to live in her reality. Not always easy but much less conflict.

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Rachael Wonderlin is an internationally-recognized dementia care expert and consultant. She has a Master’s in Gerontology and is the author of three published books with Johns Hopkins University Press. Rachael owns Dementia By Day, a dementia care consulting and education company.

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