My mother has dementia, heart problems (had 2 open heart surgeries in the last 20 yrs) We think she might also be depressed. She’s on Crestor, a bp med, and an anti-seizure med. She does have a neuro dr, but is a generation that never talked about depression so won’t really see a counselor/therapist. We had friends who were priests she might have talked to, but they either left the area or have passed away. She doesn’t like to leave the house and often very tired. Do you have any suggestions?

Hi, thanks for writing in. Dementia and depression go hand-in-hand, so there’s a good chance that you’re right and that she does have depression. 

What did she used to do with her days, before she had dementia? Often if we ask someone living with dementia, “What do you want to do?” they’ll say, “Nothing,” or, “I don’t know.” Instead, we can ask, “What did you used to do?” You may also know the answer to this! Whatever that answer is, perhaps we can fill her day with that and hobbies like it.

I always recommend asking people “for help” with chores and activities around the house. “Can you help me pick out an outfit for this event? I could really use your help on this shopping trip.” Something like that may have a better effect!

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