The problem is, you really can’t help her when she’s alone. The only thing you could do is teach the staff there the technique…but in independent living, there isn’t much staff interaction, usually. If she’s already this confused about time, she’s probably not appropriate for independent living—at least not for very long. At some point, she will probably forget that he’s passed away (good job using the best technique for this!) and she’ll give you a different answer.